okay, so i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time. And it was ackward because he couldn't stay hard. He was like, babe make me hard. What do i do. i dont give head. I tried giving him a handjob. But he was like it takes about hj and a bj to get me hard. I just dont know. It makes me feel a little self concious like im not attractive. so help please.
this may sound bad but ive never had sex sober he was kind of my first sober one because im not confident around the other guys. And alochol makes me careless and horny duh so i talk to dirt, i give lap dances. Its just i dont know about this guy. soo helppp please

Well...I dont know what to tell you. You dont give head so what he's saying he requires to get hard is a bit of a long shot for you. Try what ever you can. Tease him with a little dance or something. Have him eat you out. That's a good aphrodisiac. And if all else fails, (I'll be referencing Callmaury on this one) touch his sphincter.

thank you well he was just generally stating that, that;s what usually would get him hard. but then looked at me and said u dont do that and i wont make u do that. i dunno. i would talk dirty to him, dance for him, on him. Its just i dont have the confidence to do that sober. i always depend on my alochol o give it to me . bad i know. and when im sober i feel stupid when im talkin dirty. ill try and be sexy, but i feel retarted.

dont worry about feeling retarded, he'll like that you're trying. it may seem weird at first but when you see his reaction you'll totally calm down and be able to do it without fear
or feeling retarded.

thank u
xxx

just fyi guys don't need to be hard to have sex ok my boyfriend was never hard when we did and guys with get hard when they start having sex

Put his fingers between your lips then take his hand between your legs......heh lol i dont know. You might have to try finding ways to get him to work your body , but you are also guiding him so its like you are doing it for him......lol if that makes any sence

yah it makes sense

it just makes you more confident for some girls i guess.

It depends on the girl, if they're real tight the guy has to be hard.


Is he wearing a condom? If so.. Try a different brand.. Some of them are too tight and it cuts of circulation.. They sort of hurt too..

If he's not.. He might be nervous. Jittery.. Get him drunk? Make sure you tell him what you're doing first though, so you're not actually taking advantage of him.

You might have to submit and give head?