how can I be more talkative? when I wanna say something I run out of words
it's like I forget them...when my friends or friend friends talk to me I'm like ughuh, yea, k...and they seem me as not interesting because I cant carry a conversation with anyone anymore I dont know why should I read more books or something? im just lost...yesterday we were hanging out in my friends backyard, it was just 2 of us we were just sitting there and there was dead silence..my friend was like i saw that guy that we use to work with yesterday, i was like yea? where?, oh by jewel..i was like hmm...and after that we were quiet for another 20 minutes until another friend came and they started talking and I was listening to them...didnt say a word... andrew can talk about anything and make it interesting. he's funny as hell too I dont want to be boring, I wanna be good conversationalist I want my friends want to spend more time with me :\

Ask someone about something they like and they'll talk about it a lot. If you like it as well you'll have a nice conversation going.

you: How about them Red Sox?
person: They're an amazing team, definitely the best.
you: Oh absolutely, best in their division for sure.

And if you don't like the Red Sox, you can just go to hell because my advice is not applicable to you.

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Pick up your balls and be a man! (metaphorically speaking) Nobody will want to have a conversation with you if you have no confidence. Also this is the wrong section.

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Over 9000 hours in MS Paint.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a good conversationalist. Some teens are just naturally shy and inclusive.

Your best bet is to start small. Talk to people you're already comfortable around. The more successful conversations you have, the less shy you become. And before I go ever further, STOP APOLOGIZING! No one's doing you a favor by talking with you, it's somewhat of an exercise in relationship building.

I've read somewhere "Apologizing merely demonstrates your lack of professionalism and confidence. It's also annoying and juvenile."

Here's 3 summarized tips to get you going:

1) Ask a question. Joining some people already in a conversation can be awkward. The best way to do this is to ask a question to the group after getting the basic idea of the conversation.

2) Listen. The other end of socializing. Pretty much a give-in if you want to get better in coversations.

3) Say their name. Easy as that - people like to hear their own name said in a casual tone. Saying their name makes them feel like you know them.

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So I'm moving on
I'll never forget
As you lay there and watched me
Accepting the end

Dream Theater - Disappear

When I was little I had to take anti-anxiety pills because I wouldn't talk to anyone.

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In a way, I disagree with tip two. Listening is fine and dandy, but you have to be BOISTEROUS to be more talkative. You have to let people KNOW your opinion. Listening makes a man a mute if they do it too long.

Now, honestly, to be more talkative? Grow some tits or whatev' and find someone in school/work whom you can associate with. If that's too hard? Find someone you have NOTHING in common with, so when you go to the kid you associate with, it'll be like "o hi, bby".

It's like playing a video game on expert to start. It's pretty much training. It just takes time to learn and develop, that's all. Patience is key, but not being so patient to where you won't fucking talk because all you do is listen to that blond bitch talk about how her day was. >_>

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