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Old 08-17-2008, 08:02 AM
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So I sort of have a 'typical complicated relationship' with a boy. I'm 16, and he's 17, so...humour me. Anyway, we are 'bestfriends', but we cross that line a lot. We've both confessed that we are in love with eachother (which I am deeply), but he still insists that he isn't ready to date. I, of course, said I would wait as long as he needed. Last Friday night a mutual friend had a hall party, and I got a little out of hand. I saw him kissing a random girl that was 4 years younger than him, and I got so mad. But instead of making a scene, I thought GET EVEN. So I made out with like 7 guys, and made a bit of a fool of myself. So anyway, he was obviously angry. He called me the next morning and we had a long talk, by which I told him that I am pretty much being unfair to myself. Yes, it was wrong what I did, but he isn't my boyfriend, so it isn't that bad. He proceeded to yell at me, and tell me that I must not really love him if I can kiss other guys (two of which were his friends, so he complained that what I did was so much worse!) Then I told him that we need to take some time apart, so I can have my space, because if you're not going to commit to being with me, than a girl can only wait so long. There are a lot of other boys in this world who would be happy to be with me, and I know that, so I feel like i'm wasting my time. Although, i'm sure this boy is meant for me, and I really do love him. So what i'm asking is was it wrong for me to do what I did to him? And was it wrong to ask for time apart from a really good friend just because I want to date him? If so...what do I do?
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Old 08-17-2008, 08:08 AM
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He's never going to trust you because of that.

He's obviously not meant for you because you didn't think it was important enough to "make a scene" while he was kissing a 13 year old.

Move on, you've learned, you'll forget about him and these misguided feelings in a couple of months, if not weeks.
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Old 08-17-2008, 08:38 AM
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He's never going to trust you because of that.

He's obviously not meant for you because you didn't think it was important enough to "make a scene" while he was kissing a 13 year old.

Move on, you've learned, you'll forget about him and these misguided feelings in a couple of months, if not weeks.

We've been in this 'in between' stage for almost 9 months now,
and honestly we've been through worse situations than this party,
it just feels like this is the first time I feel like I deserve more.
Our situation is a little friends-with-benefits-ey, but with a few strings attached.
Obviously I was acting like a 13 year old, seeking revenge instead of using my words, but that doesn't mean my feelings aren't real.
Forgetting about someone whose been so involved in your life for this long feels impossible...
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Old 08-17-2008, 09:01 AM
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seriously, seven guys? jesus, even yo boys don't got that much game. so in fact, you did go overboard and did act immature. You both are immature. I need cheese.
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seriously, seven guys? jesus, even yo boys don't got that much game. so in fact, you did go overboard and did act immature. You both are immature. I need cheese.

Mmkay, obviously I was drinking, and I have over-active hormones,
and I was jealous, and I wasn't thinking, and they were all black guys,
and black guys love me. And I wanted to prove that he wasn't the only boy I could get.
But he's being immature too, so why do I have to be on my best behavior,
and sit at home and wait for him to realize what I need him to realize?
Clearly that is just hurting me.
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Old 08-17-2008, 09:25 AM
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Black boys are horribe kissers, i know this cause my cousins tell me so. they're whores but i love em. well, i supoose ur both at fault, so i guess the main thing on the line is trust. so you and your cabron here need to find a way to trust each other again. a simple i'll never do it again with crying on both sides usually works but thats just for movies. those retarded, nasty, sappy yet strangely addicting movies.

now, they say relationships that take a long time to cultivate usually last a long time. there's always that happy little ray of sunshine. but he was making out wth a thirteen year old, might want to keep that in mind for future weird and disturbing things category for your loved one.

find a way to trust him, and for him to trust you. then you guys can kiss and make fuck. or kiss. or handshake. whatever gets you off.

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that was my asshole point of viw. but in all serious, you nee to look in the future. are you two likely to fall into a kissing other people lapse again. i mean if this is our guys' response for a mistake, i dunno. relationships are built on trusts. and lies. mostly trust.
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Old 08-17-2008, 10:04 AM
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Black boys are horribe kissers, i know this cause my cousins tell me so. they're whores but i love em. well, i supoose ur both at fault, so i guess the main thing on the line is trust. so you and your cabron here need to find a way to trust each other again. a simple i'll never do it again with crying on both sides usually works but thats just for movies. those retarded, nasty, sappy yet strangely addicting movies.

now, they say relationships that take a long time to cultivate usually last a long time. there's always that happy little ray of sunshine. but he was making out wth a thirteen year old, might want to keep that in mind for future weird and disturbing things category for your loved one.

find a way to trust him, and for him to trust you. then you guys can kiss and make fuck. or kiss. or handshake. whatever gets you off.

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that was my asshole point of viw. but in all serious, you nee to look in the future. are you two likely to fall into a kissing other people lapse again. i mean if this is our guys' response for a mistake, i dunno. relationships are built on trusts. and lies. mostly trust.

Ahahahahaha. Uhhh, personally I prefer black guys,
and I have only kissed maybe 3 or 4 guys who aren't black.
They are a lot more aggressive with their kissing, I find,
and there usually is A LOT of lip to get at,
unless they're like Ethiopian. Lol.
I prefer Jamaican, and lighter-skinned. But either way =)
The boy i'm talking about is half jamaican half liberian.
He is reallllly beautiful.
No relationship is perfect, but I truly believe he is perfect for me.
And I do trust him, we just fight like crazy, probably because we're the same people.
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Old 08-17-2008, 10:38 AM
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Don't go for it. Do you want to fall in love? Or fight into love? Think about it. With you both approaching 18 and your personalities clashing it's best to end it when it will be least painful. Just think, do you guys think you can go 2 years without having a HUGE fight that will break you up? Just think about how much worse breaking up later could be. He is very immature for being 17, saying he loves but doesn't want to date you (so he can keep his "options" open I assume) and he wants to get around a bit before trying anything serious...and SEVEN guys, that's just stupid.

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So I sort of have a 'typical complicated relationship' with a boy. I'm 16, and he's 17, so...humour me. Anyway, we are 'bestfriends', but we cross that line a lot. We've both confessed that we are in love with eachother (which I am deeply), but he still insists that he isn't ready to date. I, of course, said I would wait as long as he needed. Last Friday night a mutual friend had a hall party, and I got a little out of hand. I saw him kissing a random girl that was 4 years younger than him, and I got so mad. But instead of making a scene, I thought GET EVEN. So I made out with like 7 guys, and made a bit of a fool of myself. So anyway, he was obviously angry. He called me the next morning and we had a long talk, by which I told him that I am pretty much being unfair to myself. Yes, it was wrong what I did, but he isn't my boyfriend, so it isn't that bad. He proceeded to yell at me, and tell me that I must not really love him if I can kiss other guys (two of which were his friends, so he complained that what I did was so much worse!) Then I told him that we need to take some time apart, so I can have my space, because if you're not going to commit to being with me, than a girl can only wait so long. There are a lot of other boys in this world who would be happy to be with me, and I know that, so I feel like i'm wasting my time. Although, i'm sure this boy is meant for me, and I really do love him. So what i'm asking is was it wrong for me to do what I did to him? And was it wrong to ask for time apart from a really good friend just because I want to date him? If so...what do I do?
I dunno, I mean you in da process of transcendin' to a state of girl dat us men call a "ho", and he obviously gots a taste fo' 13 year old girls wit' all of his love fo' ephebophilia and alls

Sorry sweet cheeks, it don't look like yall gonna work out
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