hi everyone i'm from canada 17y.o female
i know i'm new and i am sorry if there's already a thread like this one
please dont give me any shit, only actual advice

right. basically i used to be friends with this guy - person A -and then we fell out big time...we're in the same social circle though so it's hard to avoid him. we havent spoken in the past year although we used to be really close buds. however before we became friends we dated for about a month and then just broke it off, no hard feelings involved.

well recently i became a good friend with one of his best mates - lets call him person B..or at least i thought i did. i think person B likes me a lot since he always speaks to me on AIM and randomly texts me all the time, he even comes down to my college sometimes to see me.

my question is how do i get out of this situation so that i dont seem like a bitch. i dont want to be leading anyone but i dont know what to do since avoiding people is not a solution...neither is talking everything out because even if i confront them they will deny the whole situation.

i noticed there are mainly guys in this forum so it seemed like a suitable place to ask...if u were one of the guys in this situation what would u like me to do? what would be the best way to deal with it?

thanks
C

I'd find another one and form a love rhombus.

I say just look beyond those two and find another guy whom you'll probably like, they'll get the message and move on. That way you won't have entered into a relationship with either guy, so the angst they'll feel will be significantly lessened

i dont want a relationship with another guy, i just want to get out of this mess without seeming like a person who messes with people's minds

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Lmao.
I'm pretty sure that would be considered an orgy, but I'm not real sure.

As for me, I would say just be friendly towards him, but not overly nice. Of course, just because he texts you randomly and talks to you on AIM a lot, really doesn't mean much. I have a lot of people who text me randomly out of boredom and talk to me on YIM constantly. But that's not because they like me. Just because they're bored and wants someone to talk to. So you could be mistaking his actions for something completely different. But, I'm not sure on that one. I think if you just keep a friendship and don't flirt or act uber affectionate to him, he'll probably get the picture at some point. If he likes you, that is. Also, not everyone will deny the situation if confronted. That's always something you can try, you just have to go about it the right way.

Do what I do. Imagine you're Rampage Jackson, and then you won't care if you come off as a bitch.

lol
you're right...to hell with them. they shouldnt have put me in this situation in the first place :P

although not all of it is their fault, im still gonna blame them xD

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As a man the BEST thing I would love to hear in this situation is: ANYTHING EXCEPT BULL SHIT!

I'm a smart man, I hate being lied to, and I can tell when I'm being lied to. Don't lie to me.

Tell him, straight up: "Listen, I can't have a boyfriend right now, I'm sorry if you have feelings for me but I don't have the same ones for you. This isn't me playing hard to get, this is me saying it's either friends or nothing."

Don't say "you're a great guy...but" none of that horse shit. Just the honest to God fucking TRUTH!

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