I currently have an on going situation with a very close friend who is staying with his crazy whore-bitch girlfriend despite the fact she has cheated on him three times. He refuses to see the light and break up with her, which brings me to our topic: Cheating.

Is it truly a forgivable offense? Do people really move past it and learn to trust again? Are you okay with the mental image of another man/woman mounting your significant other and riding them off into the sunset?

I just want to clear up two quick things before people use wiggle room to try and validate their shitty opinions. In this case I am specifically referring to COMMITTED and EXCLUSIVE relationships where the significant other has SEX with another person. I don't want 800 posts asking "But what if they don't know they're exclusive" or "if it's just one kiss while drunk".

We're talking penis in vag action here people (then out of vag, and in again).

Oh, and no one is on a break.

Allow me my two cents here first.

There are only TWO acceptable resolutions to the cheating scenario. For this demonstration lets use a situation similar to the one my friend has, where the girl cheats on the guy. Just so I don't have to keep typing he/she through this whole thing to make it grammatically correct.

So, a guy and a girl in a committed and exclusive relationship have been going out for some time, and after a fight about something trivial, the chick goes out and screws another man.

The first of the two acceptable options is the obvious one; to break up with her. The fact of the matter is, whatever the problem was to her, the solution was to sleep with another man. That's something a person who doesn't care about you does, and caring about a person is pretty much the thing a real relationship is based on.

You didn't run off and fuck some random whore, you had more sense. Trust can't be regained (I'll address this more later). If she did it once, she'll do it again. End of story.

The second acceptable reaction involves staying with the whore, and I'll explain the only, and I mean ONLY circumstance under which that is acceptable. This only works if you're staying with the person for one reason: to have a regular lay.

Generally speaking, this doesn't work because it's hard for someone who has been in a committed relationship with a person to have the emotional detachment necessary to make this work. Basically, you need to not care if the other person cheats, or care about them at all, you're there for one reason: sex.

You keep up the illusion of a relationship so she'll continue to put out, but you know you can't trust her and are looking for someone else (or at least capable of breaking it off at any time without a batting an eye). Most importantly, you are not obligated to put up with any more of her shit, so you don't.

This is usually damn near impossible unless you've grown apart severely as a couple prior to the offense. This is because the temptation to reestablish the emotional connection of the relationship too great. Even worse, such interactions are second nature at this point. You could go in with a healthy attitude and inadvertently find yourself in a relationship again without meaning for it to happen.

Basically, hooking up and having sex with her is cool, so long as you understand you are NOT WITH HER and don't put up with any of the bullshit from her that you would have when you were together.

So what does it mean then if he goes back to her and reestablishes the relationship? He's a pussy bitch of the highest order.

When someone goes back to a person who cheated on them it's for one of two reasons, either:

A) They are so terrified of leaving the comfort zone of the relationship they go back licking their wounds and rationalizing.

or

B) They have such a pitiful sense of self worth they go back because they don't believe they are capable of better.

The worst part is, by doing this, you've proven to her that she can do whatever she wants, and you'll take her back. You just gave her permission to screw any guy she pleases. You can't ever trust her again, if you think you can, you're rationalizing because you don't want to contemplate the fact that you CAN'T. People who say shit like they've "learned to overcome it" are naive fools who are deluding themselves because they are emotionally incapable of dealing with reality.

So, what do you think?

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Getting back with the whore is unacceptable. You'd have to turn in your dick at the man-door.

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Peoples perspective on dating is quite contrary to what things used to be like in the old days. Back then dating was just a means of getting to know a person in w/e way you can, and no strings attached. They called "going steady" a means of just one on one nothing more.

I don't care what you or any one says, there is no excuse for whore behavior of such ways. If a girl is done with me to go after another person (to date or anything) then I'm done with them.

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Also, when a girl strings a guy along as she fucks other guys. Usually, this guy in unable to step up and satisfy all her needs (physically, most likely) so she uses him for emotional gains while receiving pleasure from other, more reliable sources. Unfortunately, there's really no quick fix for this, since some of the issue resides with the man, so the best thing to do here is break up as well.

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I wish I had more varied ways of starting my replies, as opposed to opening with "you're an idiot" all the time, but it's late, I'm tired, and too lazy to look shit up in a thesaurus.

Anyway, on to the bit I quoted.

How is that more forgivable than any other form of cheating? If anything I would say thats even worse than if they cheated on you with an ex or a friend. If they cheat with an ex or a friend of theres at least that could be understood, in that there is some sort of preexisting relationship on which the temptation to cheat was built.

By no means am I saying this is an excuse, as I think I've made it plainly clear where I stand on the issue. But to go out and cheat with a completely random stranger? Thats deplorable behavior and means, plain as day, that the guilty party is a dirty whore who can't be trusted.

Either way, you should inform the guys you date that they have a free pass to bang as many club whores as they want as long as they get regular HIV tests. I'm sure they'd love to have that information.

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Nah, cheating's not cool.
If your chick is fucking someone else on the side, lay down the pimp hand, "BITCH. GET OUT OF MY FUCKING HOUSE. -SLAP-"

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Cheating is cheating is cheating.

Show her no mercy!!!!

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cheating is the ultimate "fuck you" so no, no forgiveness. i have a rule, the very instance you cheat on me is the very instance were through.

if she/he cheats then obviously there not happy in the relationship. i don't care if they're drunk its no excuse

Cheating is absolutely unforgivable. Under no circumstances would I continue dating someone who cheated.