Well not his soul to speak.

His personallity has been destroyed through a relationship with the same girl for a year onwards.

One of my best mates, called 'West' (Surnames all the rage) has been going out with Lisa for over a year, I'm unsure of the exact dates.
But anyways.
Before West was a happy, rude, immature, very rude, almost insane, didn't care what anyone thought about him sort of person. He was a laugh and had a great sence of humour, and would love to shout his favourite word "Cunt" randomly at people.
This was West, he would laugh at people who looked retarded, old, wearing gay clothes, whatever whatever you name it if they heard him and looked at him he'd just laugh harder.
He really had a no care attitude. And it was amazing some of the things we'd all get up to.

Well for the last year or whatever, I haven't really been out with him much as his attention whoring girlfriend always wants to see him and makes him feel bad about not seeing her.
She really get's jealous and is a clingy, overprotective bitch.

My advice personally to him was "Tell her to back the fuck off"
But I realised that I haven't really asked if he still wants to be with her.

He could do a lot better, and it would do him a lot of good if he came out and had some fun once again with us lot.
He's now more or less limited to a small number of mates that Lisa knows and that West knows, which off the top of my head is.. three people...

Ok wow, really didn't think it was that low.

I know he likes to come out with me and our other mates from a couple of years back, we all used to hang with eachother everyday from when we was like 13 till about 17.
But if he's with us and Lisa calls then the phonecall ends up in a quarrell about something or other cause he's out having fun. Oh no.



Recently I saw him friday night, we was going to go to a party and meet up there, he told Lisa two weeks before the party that he was going and really wanted to go as it was a really good (female) mate of his, he really never ever sees anymore, due to the fact that she has a busy life and West has a bitch snapping at his heels.
Well instantly there was problems she was like afterwards talking about some shit meal with her parents. Why the fuck would you ditch a party for a meal with parents? Why?

Really I could not see any logic there.

Nevertheless the next two weeks was her complaining about this party and meal and how obviously the party was more important then her.
That's where I would have stepped up and gave her a piece of my mind, unfortunately he's not me, and well now his personallity dead he just agreed to this meal thing hoping to get away early.

Turns out the meal ended at about 10:30 and well I was stuck at work still until around 11. But by the time I got to this party thing, it was more or less finished because the bar closed at the club it was being hosted at, what sort of party ends at 11:30? Really..
Well West missed most of it, and really was pissed off with the fact that his overprotective bitch kept him having fun once again, and then she had the cheek to be pissed off at him for still wanting to go.

As I met up with him later we hanged about, and well came across another couple of mates who were scaring some girls in a building for whatever reason. No we're not kids.. just very immature.
But really that has nothing to do with anything apart from West's lack of enthusiasm towards wearing tights over his face or a scream mask while scaring some girls at about 1am. Which when we did persuade him to, the results were actually AMAZING.


And well now A couple of nights on I've found out that she's still pissed with him for going out after the shit meal thing, and then hanging about with mates afterwards. It's like she's got something against him having fun.
I also know for a fact she doesn't like me that much, as one of my ex's was talking to them, and well she thinks I act like a kid, well if that is the case, then does she even know the guy she's dating?
She doesn't like any of West's other mates either, simply because we all act pretty immature in a sense of having fun together, most of it is driving around these days, messing about in our cars.
Back in the day or the "Bmx" era as I call it, we would cause so much hassle for other people when out and West was one of the main people doing this as well as the most foul mouthed.

It just seems that she's killed most of his personallity off, and he's too much of a pussy to do anything about it.

What would your advice for West be?

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"As long as there's free will, idiots will never learn"

Dump the bitch.

He's getting walked all over.

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It's not her, it's him. he has no assertiveness, no authority, no manhood - So she's constantly beating him down, showing her authority. Women have been told since the 80s that they can be "independent" and are as strong as a man. Some believe it, and this is a classic case of that. If he keeps it up, he'll end up married to her, or a woman just like her. What he needs to do is gain some confidence, get away from her (dump), find some goals to self-motivate, and then completely examine himself and his self-esteem. Therein lies the issue I'm sure. Ask him to come here if he cares enough.

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I've had a friend like that

You know what it's called? Pussy WWWWHIIIPPPEEDdd
Yeah your friend is whipped with one of two things

1. Pussy he's getting
2. Pussy he's not getting but wants

Nothing you can do about it. Let him be, he'll either wise up and learn or he'll grow up marry the bitch and live a terrible life.

Get over it, stop caring for your friends choices, their his decisions. As much as I hate seeing a girl carry a guy around by the balls and make him do what she wants we can't do anything about it, even if you two are best friends.

If you pursue it any longer I'm going to assume you have intimate relations with your friend and you find that his girlfriend is getting in your way.

Let me tell you something important, if she's pissed because you guys went out to party and what not, she'll just be pissed. LET HER, let her squirm like the bitch she is. She'll wise up and learn that you don't really CARE, then before you know it, it'll be a habit where you guys chill she gets mad he goes home fucks her till she forgets about it.

Heed my words, for thy art wise.

-Stricken

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Reece -- lol stricken...you truly are a prophet of the new millenium
Symmy-- "StrickeN=Amazing. Enough said."
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