to sex or not to sex, that is the current question - Page 3

Daire · #21 (**permalink**) 06-14-2008, 07:19 PM

uh what???

xxsWeEtxxChOcOlAtExx · #22 (**permalink**) 06-14-2008, 07:42 PM

i would say yes but u really dont no

xxmisscheer · #23 (**permalink**) 06-15-2008, 03:06 AM

I really hate it when guys Just stop really dating and Just go for a one night stand
to guys it Just fun
and for girls its mostly the same but it means more to us
and to just leave..
But hey everyone is diffrent thats Just me.

Odin · #24 (**permalink**) 06-15-2008, 07:09 AM

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Originally Posted by xxmisscheer

I really hate it when guys Just stop really dating and Just go for a one night stand
to guys it Just fun
and for girls its mostly the same but it means more to us
and to just leave..
But hey everyone is diffrent thats Just me.

You don't like it, don't fuck me.

stricken · #25 (**permalink**) 06-15-2008, 06:04 PM

Wow Lucian wow xD

I promise you one thing, you "hopefully" will lose your virginity soon. Why wait till you're married? Just have fun, I mean I don't think you're hurting yourself to much.

Listen, if your girl is being obsessive tell her bluntly to chill the fuck out or you'll go out with the many of other girls you have lined up Njord's jealousy card I promise if she really cares she will work VERY HARD to make sure you don't leave her side.

Aside from that, if you do fuck the fuck buddy, don't tell your girlfriend <,< baaaad things. Oh, and make sure she knows that's all there is, fuck buddy relations. Nothing more.

**Sir. Lucian Adonis** · #26 (**permalink**) 06-16-2008, 07:28 PM

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I really hate it when guys Just stop really dating and Just go for a one night stand
to guys it Just fun
and for girls its mostly the same but it means more to us
and to just leave..
But hey everyone is diffrent thats Just me.

I do really date, assuming that was directed at me.
Point and purpose to my current attitude is that I attract all the really innocent girls are likely to gather my desires and fantasies and drag them to a level that simply destroyes them and causes myself more psychological discomfort than i thought possible.

Believe me, it happened...twice.

Where I live and what occures in my life...it is cause for me to break a few barriers in order to reach to someone who actually cares and wont change and slowly crumble me to little pieces.

I live in the very buckle of the bible belt.
All the christian girls of 13-16 telling me how I should be, and finding out who I am, they want me, but they want to be different.
if I am no longer a virgin then they will either simply accept it or they will move on and I wont have issues.
The girls that are kind, simple, accepting and non judgemental...they will be the ones I will find...alongside the really hardcore whoring girls around here =/

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So did you do it?

Alas, at the current moment things have taken a nasty turn.

The girl whom I was going to be sex buddy for (yes she understands its just a sex thing, nothing huge, but we are friends it all cool =P)
She recently suffered a injury, I believe I mentioned it, it has worsened and thus to have sexual relations with her would cause her intense pain.
So I have for her safety and sake not proceeded.

My 'GF' as it were has somewhat fallen off the face of the planet.
I have attemped to call her multiple times and she never picks up, and she wasnt where I basically saw her every week, and as far as I know she hasnt tried to call me in over a week.

I don't know exactly what is up with that, could be alot of things, i am still looking into it.

But yeah, in anycase, should things continue to fall through in this instance, there are a few oter girls whom I know who has expressed some interest in the concept.

I havent given up yet.
Minor setbacks.

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jesus man take it easy and stop being so heavy!
i mean come on your what 16? 17?
stop fucking thinking about the girls emotional state...SHE WILL GET OVER IT!!!

17.
And you have apperently not seen what I have.
the girls around where I live?
yeah...

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I promise you one thing, you "hopefully" will lose your virginity soon. Why wait till you're married? Just have fun, I mean I don't think you're hurting yourself to much.

Waiting until I'm married was my origonal plan. It is a special thing. It can mean alot.
And if it so happens that things turn out that way, so be it, i wont be upset.
But the fact of losing myself now would be having some simple affects on how my life turns.

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Listen, if your girl is being obsessive tell her bluntly to chill the fuck out or you'll go out with the many of other girls you have lined up Njord's jealousy card I promise if she really cares she will work VERY HARD to make sure you don't leave her side.

She cares, but i do believe that due to her past fickle nature, she will be fine.
As long as, again, i do not tell her while I am fucking someone.
I am not cruel, as that would hurt her alot.
And she is my friend, I dont want to lose that.

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Aside from that, if you do fuck the fuck buddy, don't tell your girlfriend <,< baaaad things. Oh, and make sure she knows that's all there is, fuck buddy relations. Nothing more.

Of course.
i wouldnt be in a relationship when I bed her, thats the point.
And there is no way in hell i would tell her anyway. or many of my friends. very little sex and tell will occure.
And Yes, she and I have already discussed this.

She stated to me, she isnt looking for a serious or long lasting relationship.
She said, we can have sex. And we could even be in a relationship. But when she is in relationships she feels tied down, she doesnt like them much.

So I am safe.
That and i don't even need to aquire anything.
She has condoms and all that stuff. So, I wont spend a penny or a second of my time for any of that stuff. She is prepared ^_^

And being versed as she is, if indeed, she heals and is still in for it, there are few our age here that can beat her out.

Damn, I'll be spoiled. XD

Odin · #27 (**permalink**) 06-16-2008, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Sir. Lucian Adonis

I live in the very buckle of the bible belt.
All the christian girls of 13-16 telling me how I should be, and finding out who I am, they want me, but they want to be different.
if I am no longer a virgin then they will either simply accept it or they will move on and I wont have issues.
The girls that are kind, simple, accepting and non judgemental...they will be the ones I will find...alongside the really hardcore whoring girls around here =/

If they ask, tell them it's none of their damn business.

**Sir. Lucian Adonis** · #28 (**permalink**) 06-17-2008, 12:01 AM

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If they ask, tell them it's none of their damn business.

Well, it wouldnt be if its a casual relationship. But I tend to be open to peoples questions, I have no reason not to be.
If I am in a casual relationship and she simply does not ask, I will not go into detail.

But eventually when I reach into a serious relationship, if she askes me I will find no need to lie. If at that point she doesnt like it, then she isnt open-minded enough to be with me anyway.

Odin · #29 (**permalink**) 06-17-2008, 01:36 AM

You're not lying, you're just telling her it's a part of your past she has no right of knowing about.

Your past is yours.

**Sir. Lucian Adonis** · #30 (**permalink**) 06-17-2008, 04:16 AM

That is true.
Unfortunate for me however the girls around here generally become suspicious of guys who have sercretive pasts.

I mean, if I find a wonderful girl who is completely ok with whoever I am, then I am safe. But the girls around fall into one or more of several catagories...

1. hardcore christian
2. slut
3. druggie
4. evil/insane
5. innocent little girl*

The ones outside of that have been known to move away the second they got the chance. generally to Dallas.

For note now,
the innocent little girls are merely the pre-evolutionary form of the four top femaile catagories down here. And seeing as how our college has its own STD and my city is one of the top in the nation for STD's and teen pregnancies...I don't really want a slut.

The druggie wouldnt care who I am,
the slut wouldnt,
the insane/evil do, but generally simply best you at your past in the span of being with them, if thats the course of one night...that will be the ride of your life.
the others all care enough to hate you or 'save' you.

So, if she isnt ok with my past, I'm fucked.
My recent ex falls into several catagories...(1, 3, & 5...)
So...I was pretty screwed there.

I apologize for rambling, I am pretty tired right now.
As such, I will wander off. but yeah.

Thanks Odin, the assistence your providing is greatly appriciated.

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