I've been talking a lot with my friends about this but I figured it would help to get the opinion of people who don't know either of us and haven't been listening to me complain about him the last few weeks. I've known this guy since 5th grade I think and I've always considered him a friend up until this year. We had a thing in November 07 but didn't start going out until December, we went out until March, broke up, went out for another month, then broke up just recently. Now I'm going out with this other guy but I still have very strong feelings for this guy and he still does for me. We both sort of agreed that it wouldn't work out so we decided to be friends but I CAN'T take this because I have all of these feelings for him. Then there are these other girls falling all over him. Should I break up with the guy I'm seeing now because of these feelings? Or should I just give up on this boy who I've liked for about half a year and stay friends? ...Or is it just that being friends with this guy is just too difficult? I spend every night crying and I feel pathetic, I need to straighten this out soon. Your help would be appreciated, really.

First off, break up with the dude you're currently with. No need to drag him along for the ride if you ain't even feelin' him for real. If it didn't work out, it just didn't work out. Of course you're going to have some feelings for the old guy if you recently broke up with him. But uh, yeeeah, I heard 3rd time's the charm. Not bajillionth time's the charm. Let it go. You should still be friends, but space yourself from him until you're chill.

See Dr. Njord. Maybe he can set up an appointment with you.

yeah you need to dump the guy your with now, it would work best if you just dropped your relationship with him down to "just friends" because it doesnt seem like you are that into him. personally i think you should just keep it cool with this guy you have liked for a long while, you went with him several times and it didn't seem to work out....so basically if you do end up with him again, you guys will just simply break up. i think you need to move on, or maybe you should instead give the guy your with now a chance. he may prove to be something more than you think.

You're best bet would be to talk it out properly first with the guy you still like.

From there you can decide together what you're both going to do. Just confess how much you still like him, see if he really feels the same.
If he doesn't, then stick with your current guy and use him as the rebound.

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JGSHocky right give it up, u'll just keep go'in out with eachother and it wont lead anywhere, move on!!!!!!!!!!!

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Give over.

You've been going out with him for a year on and off and you still don't know.

Stop being so selfish. It's not a game of "dip-dip".

Make up your fucking mind. Not every man in the world is there for your disposal.

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dude calm down. i'm best friends with both of these guys. i'm just trying to make sure no one gets hurt. don't be so quick to judge. please and thank you.

Heh. I guess I'm one of those thinkers!

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hey.
im kinda goin through the same thing with my bestfriend. me an him have been bestfriends for over two years now..we did everything together wen we werent together we were always texting or talking on the phone. well we got into a really huge argument an quit talking for awhile wen we did start talking again he told me he had a girlfriend which i said was okay but it pratically killed me. well after that day we didnt talk for 2 months then one day i was layin in bed and he texted me an told me he was sorry that we hadnt talked in so long so we started talking again(i knew him an his gf had broken up) well one day i texted him an said what are you doing honey? an he told me he was bout to go out to dinner with his ex that made me feel like my heart had been ripped outta my chest bc he means the world to me i've been in love with him since we became bestfriends.....he hasnt texted me or called me since he told me he was goin out to dinner with her...everyday i wake up hopeing to have a call or text from him but i never do i dont know what im going to do im confused really confused