Yeah, so, there's this girl who I'm good friends with, and I've known her for like three years. We used to have a romantic relationship, but her friends convinced her I wasn't good enough, and she dumped me. I've had really strong feelings for her since (which was in 06 btw), and can't seem to get over them. I'm pretty sure I'm in love with her. But there's a problem. She likes me back, but she has a boyfriend.

Here's some background on him: He's completely paranoid, and a total dickwad. He treats people like dirt, even her. He goes through her stuff, and reads letters/notes she gets, and has even forbade her to talk to me (and she says I'm her best friend). He's also massive. Like, if his back's turned, he looks like a beached whale.

Any way I can get her to dump him without being a completely horrible person?

Also, I just want your help, not your judgment.

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Problem #1
Tell her stupid friends to fuck off, and she should do the same when it comes to her relationships.

Problem #2
I doubt that you love her. So cut that out. Have you had any other girls in between this time?
Then she doesn't like you back. The simple solution to this being, tell her to leave him and come to you, the better man. If she doesn't, then she isn't worth your time.

Well she's with this guy for a reason, despite what problems you may see on the surface. Don't try to downplay him because of certain things he's done/does, because she's still going with him.

Also, he's probably paranoid and forbids her from talking to you because you obviously have feelings for her. He's defending his relationship, so you can't be mad at him for that.

As I said above, you have to show you're the bigger, better man. You're funnier, nicer, more sensitive to her needs and feelings, and will be there for her at all times. However, it's her choice. If she wants to bullshit around with some guy who isn't good for her, then the best thing for you to do is finally move on.

This must be a no-bullshit sign for the Norse gods. Fortunately, you asked for solid advice so you won't get any, for now.

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Homie learn some martial arts and kick his ass, bigger he be da harder he gonna fall

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Well, thanks for the seemingly unbiased opinion, Njord.

Also, I've had one girlfriend in that time that I stayed with for very long, and one that lasted for about a week. One started in my attempts to get over her and lasted, for some obscure reason, and the other was again, an attempt to get over her, but didn't last.

So, I just wait it out?

Damn.

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thats wat i would do-if hes as much of an ass hole as you say he is then they cant be together that much longer then you will be there for support-and tell her she desurves better-and so on

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No. Because then you become the rebound, and those don't last. You have to show her you're better, and pull her away from him. If you can't do that, then she isn't worth your time.

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well i think u should saw her the way he is treating her an tel her she can do better that she is a strong girl an she need to kick him to the dogs because he is a dog if that the way he act thats what he need to be now for what i know about u she need to open her eyes an stop listen to what her friends say soon it will hit her that she lost a good boy friend an that is all a girl wants