Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 5 months now. Things have mainly been going great. Our friends all get along, my parents don't mind him, he's a real sweetheart and I'm truly in love with him. I know he's absolutely perfect and won't pressure me into doing anything I don't want to do. Whats wrong with our situation is I know he wants us to be together forever, and I feel the same, but we both know deep down that we can't. The thing is, we're two seperate religions, and his forbids him from dating anyone outside his religion. I have never met his parents for this reason, because they hardcore follow this rule. He keeps us a secret from them. They found out once, and they and people form his church-thing put him through all sorts of torture by telling him that he needed to break up with me (he didn't, of course, but they don't know that now.) I myself am completely against lying, since because of it I have been in several bad relationships in the past. I can't stand that he has to lie to his parents, but I'd rather him do that then get tortured because of me. The only way we'd be able to stay together with his parents not objecting would be for me to convert. I'm not sure I want to. I'm happy with the religion I am, but I'm always up to try new things, and I can't really say yay or nay to something if I don't know anything about it. What should I do?

Your religion is your past, present, and future beliefs. It defines you as a person, and shouldn't be forced upon you (directly or indirectly) by anyone. I hardly call converting a 'new thing' - it's an entirely new life. Would you be willing to change your entire life and following beliefs you don't necessarily agree with for your boyfriend? You've got to make sure both of you love each other... and even then, converting would be a stretch. I advise against it, especially because you're happy with your current religion. If his parents are 'hardcore' in adhering to this rule, who's to say there aren't others? Your boyfriend may be embarrassed to say, or even frightened for your own sake.

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So I'm moving on
I'll never forget
As you lay there and watched me
Accepting the end

Dream Theater - Disappear

where the fuck do you live where religion is so important. its a bunch of bullshit.

i agree religion is false it's a cover to blind you from the truth of evolution. Evolution is the anwser to everything. think about it there is no GOD!!!!!!! get used to it!!!!!!!!!

Guys shut the fuck up. Honestly.

First off, I have to agree with Guru here.

Religion (at least the 3 major ones) are not to be considered hobbies. Converting isn't just to "try new things" but dedicate your life to that religion, god, deity, etc..Of course you could always research it, see if it's values, morals, beliefs line up with what you understand about the world.

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lol them crazy atheists, always jumping on the chance to force their beliefs on us

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"The world will look up and shout 'Save us!' And I'll whisper, 'No.'" - Rorschach, Watchmen

Ripplemagne concurs with Njord.

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