Everything Njord said here is correct but I would like to add one little piece of my own advice to his.
We've posted time and time again on the subject of young love and it's fallacies, but this time I'm not going to beat a dead horse here with the "You're not in love" bit that I usually do in this situation.
The reason for that is because apparently the message isn't sinking in, since we still get a ton of posts like this on a regular basis. Perhaps this is my fault for sticking with a strategy that is obviously not getting through to anyone. So I am going to try something new here. Bear with me.
My advice is for you to do whatever you can on your own to dissuade yourself from your concept of him being "meant for you". By allowing yourself to believe that's true, your ability to act, let go, and move on from the situation is being compromised. You are essentially creating a mental block for yourself that is going to prevent you from being able to cope with the situation in a way that's healthy.
As for how to go about dropping that idea, you are going to have to figure out the best way for you to do that on your own.
I'm not you, I don't know how you think, so I don't entirely know what would work to make you stop thinking that. My one suggestion is to keep telling yourself that there are plenty of other guys out there, and that you are still young, and the likelyhood that anything you would develope with this boy wouldn't be a long term thing anyway. Trust me, if you can shake the idea of this boy being THE boy, handeling this will feel a hell of alot easier. |