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Originally Posted by Guru  There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a good conversationalist. Some teens are just naturally shy and inclusive.
Your best bet is to start small. Talk to people you're already comfortable around. The more successful conversations you have, the less shy you become. And before I go ever further, STOP APOLOGIZING! No one's doing you a favor by talking with you, it's somewhat of an exercise in relationship building.
I've read somewhere "Apologizing merely demonstrates your lack of professionalism and confidence. It's also annoying and juvenile."
Here's 3 summarized tips to get you going:
1) Ask a question. Joining some people already in a conversation can be awkward. The best way to do this is to ask a question to the group after getting the basic idea of the conversation.
2) Listen. The other end of socializing. Pretty much a give-in if you want to get better in coversations.
3) Say their name. Easy as that - people like to hear their own name said in a casual tone. Saying their name makes them feel like you know them. |
In a way, I disagree with tip two. Listening is fine and dandy, but you have to be BOISTEROUS to be more talkative. You have to let people KNOW your opinion. Listening makes a man a mute if they do it too long.
Now, honestly, to be more talkative? Grow some tits or whatev' and find someone in school/work whom you can associate with. If that's too hard? Find someone you have NOTHING in common with, so when you go to the kid you associate with, it'll be like "o hi, bby".
It's like playing a video game on expert to start. It's pretty much training. It just takes time to learn and develop, that's all. Patience is key, but not being so patient to where you won't fucking talk because all you do is listen to that blond bitch talk about how her day was. >_>